I once worked with a pre-teen girl who always seemed to identify with the dark side of life. While I did not think that was inherently a bad or dangerous thing, I was concerned that she seemed disconnected from the lighter, more sunny and carefree aspects of living.
Just before Halloween *Lisa approached me and asked me if I had any Halloween costumes she could borrow. I couldn’t come up with anything but then I suddenly remembered that I had some old cheerleading uniforms in my closet.
“I know you wouldn’t be interested in those!” I laughed.
But she surprised me in saying, “Jeanine, would you really, really let me borrow one? That would be so great.”
I was pleased to see that she might want to embrace something different then her usual gloomy interests. Secretly, I was also chuffed with myself for having been the catalyst for her shift in preferences. I found myself smiling in the days before Halloween about having helped my little darling manifest something positive in her life. I felt effective, successful and self-satisfied.
On Halloween day, I looked out my office window and saw Lisa dressed in my uniform. I couldn’t have been more delighted. Then, on closer inspection I could see that she had painted her face pale green, had ratted her blonde hair and had fake blood dripping from the corners of her mouth. She wasn’t just any cheerleader; she was dressed as a dead cheerleader. My delight in being a successful change agent evaporated into thin air.
I thought about this story when contemplating the idea about manifesting seeming negatives and the shame that can accompany those manifestations. What I’ve noticed, however, is that often those “negative” manifestations hide positive and even non-dual potentials. I know that some of the most bitterly painful manifestations in my life have also brought some of the most beautiful gifts into my life. Without the challenges (some might say negatives), I wouldn’t be half the woman I am today.
Later that Halloween day it occurred to me that it wasn’t important that Lisa had chosen to be a dead cheerleader. What was important was that she came to me and I was able to share with her. We connected. That was ultimately the positive part. I could see the humor and creativity with what she had done and I laughed to myself for the rest of the day.
If it feels like you have been manifesting the negative, I might challenge you to look beneath the exterior and find the hidden gifts. You might find yourself laughing for the rest of the day!
*Name has been changed.
Jeanine Marie Austin, Ph.D., C.Ht.
Doctor of Life Coaching, Certified Hypnotherapist
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